I was chatting with a friend the other day and my kid came along. My kid asked for a drink, so I told him what we had for choices. The selection included about twelve different options. He sighed that first world sigh and let out a depressed, “Don’t we have any blah, blah, blah?”
No. We don’t. If we did it would have been in that list of options, right?
This reminded me of the fact that my kid, as well as all of us, will do what we can to create problems, especially when we don’t believe we have any.
For example, if you were walking through the desert without a drop of liquid to drink and I came along and offered twelve different options of refreshing liquid, you probably wouldn’t challenge me on my limited choices. You may just grab the closest thing and gulp down what you could to save your life.
This is all a matter of perspective, you see.
What we as enlightened people need to realize is that what we often believe is a problem is not a real problem. It is a created problem. One that can be ignored. Once you ignore some of these superficial problems, you can deal with a higher quality problem.
We typically ignore the higher quality problems, and pay gross attention to the insignificant issues.
Higher quality problems like the worn out tires that need to be replaced will be ignored. Those tires will get ignored while an insignificant problem may take our attention, such as your podcast not loading right away. One problem will offer you safety and traction to get you where you need to be, one problem will entertain you while you hydroplane into the ditch.
Life is all about choices, right?
The big question that comes to mind is, of course, why? Why do we create or pay attention to insignificant problems? Don’t we have better things to do? Well, yes, we do. What is interesting to note is that problems are a sign of life. They are a foundation for great stories, or really, all stories. We need problems to be, feel and enjoy life.
Our goal then is to make sure we take care of the problems that matter and ignore the problems that do not help us grow as people.
The way we do this is by learning to make better and faster decisions. We also need to understand that sometimes, it really doesn’t matter. Pick one and move along.
For my kid, I just handed him a drink and said, take it and come back if you need something else. He grabbed it, thanked me and went on his way back to playing. I limited the options to help him make a decision. You may find that you can do this with yourself as well.
What is interesting is that as we create our problems, we will be hit with other problems that are not due to our rather easy life. We will be hit with real problems that we need to overcome. I believe that we are never faced with a problem that we are not capable of overcoming. You could look at your problems as tests. Look at them as if they are a challenge designed for you to prove your skills.
It is not that you have to, it is that you get to.
My goal in writing this is to help make you aware of the problems you are experiencing and offer you the insight to look at your problems and ask yourself, “Is this really a problem?”
You may find that if you are not willing to solve the problem, either it is not real, or it has not caused you enough pain to be real. Maybe it isn’t really a problem after all.
James Kademan is a Business Coach for Draw In Customers Business Coaching in Madison, Wisconsin as well as the author of The BOLD Business Book. When he isn’t deciding on what justifies a real problem or not, he is busy guiding entrepreneurs to success in business and beyond. He blogs successfully to the world at www.drawincustomers.com and has a business podcast, Authentic Business Adventures. If you are considering hiring a business coach, take a moment to call James at (608)210-2221. If you need some guidance, give James a call and he’ll help you get through your problems, real or not.